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Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Sex and Wal-Mart

I was reading a blog by David Wood wherein he commented that apparently Wal-Mart will be carrying sex toys. This is appaling to me. David brings up some interesting points on couples being able to access things without the "dirty" feelings associated with such, but as a mother I already have to contend with protecting budding readers from magazine headlines. I don't need to find my kid going, "What's this for?" Is there no place safe to take my kids shopping? I would like to preserve their youth and innocence for at least a little while!

Personally, I have no problem with couples buying and using items and toys that enhance their lovemaking. But if you are going to be mature enough to use it, be mature enough to buy it. There are several shops that are more discreet and tasteful if looking first is helpful. Then there are tons of ways to purchase on-line. There are companies that host in-home parties as well so you can look and browse items in the comfort of your own home. There is no need to have these kinds of things in the "family" stores. I tell you this, if my Wal*Mart starts carrying it, I will cross the street th shop at Albertsons.

There is one thing on which I do whole heartedly agree with David on. Love making is a skill that should be practiced. Get feedback, experiment, try new things, alterations on favorites, some spicy, some sugar, some quickies, some gormet, lotions, massaging, baths....Intimate detail: Jim and I have a rule. Either partner can ask for anything at anytime with the understanding that the other partner has a right to say to no if they are uncomfortable with it. It is done without judgements by either party, so no one is weird for asking and no one is prude for saying no.

Be honest with your partner as well. If you aren't telling them what's working and what's not working, they can't improve. Share with each other. If you can do it in sex, pretty soon you will be able to be more open with each other in other areas as well.

This is, of course, just my opinion. But after 11 years and with 4 kids under the age of 8 I can honestly say our sex life keeps geting better.


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