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Wednesday, February 16, 2005

Want vs. Be

How many times have you heard the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" First we hear it as a child. Later we are asking our own child. I read somewhere that this was the wrong question. It argued that a better question would be "What kind of person do you want to be?" Although an improvement I think they are both wrong.

There is something fundementally wrong with both questions. "What do you want...? A want is something you don't have. You can't ever have it because then you couldn't want it anymore. I realized the right question would sound more like, "Who are you becoming?" or "What will you do? When?" Then explore those questions with clarifiers such as, "What is that kind of person like? What do you think you will need to know? What are you doing to become like that?"

It sounds silly but why do we wait until we are "grown up" to start asking these kinds of questions, if we ever do ask them? Things would have been much different for me if someone had implanted the thought that those desires were attainable by taking deliberate actions. Now, I think it's time we change the perception for those that surround us and those we are raising.

1 Comments:

Anonymous Blue Wolf said...

It takes us until we become aware that those are questions that we can ask. I believe that very few of us were taught that those are appropriate questions ever.

When we have come to that awareness, then it is our duty to help spread that idea to others. Just like you are now doing in your blog. Good for you. I am proud of you.

All of us who have been through Warrior and other Peaks events have no excuse but to be spreading this message. Especially TT1 & TT2 graduates.

People involved with Peaks are self selected. We have a desire to help others and change the world a little at a time.

Each of us does it in our own way but it is very good to get the support and feedback from our tribe and others.

Thu Feb 17, 10:11:00 PM MST  

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