Who's problems?

It has been said that if we all threw our problems into a giant heap,
and could pick any problems we wanted, we would end up picking our
own. Some say this is because they are familiar. Some say it is
because only we can solve them. Others say it is because they are
ordained of God. I can only come from my own experience, but that
experience has taught me that when I try to take on other people's
problems it does't help them and only weighs me down. However, when I
face my own problems, and deal with those challenges, I grow. Through
this growth I am then able to help people find a way through their
problems and lighten their load. So it would seem that it is always
most beneficial to work through my own problems.